Here are a bunch of podcasts, videos, quizzes, articles, apps, tools, charts, etc. that you may find helpful. They are a mixture of resources specific to relationship skills and to healing relational trauma. Enjoy!
Podcasts I’ve Been On:
Instagram Lives I’ve Done:
Anxious + Avoidant Dynamics with Rikki Cloos (July 2022)
Attachment Theory with Rikki Cloos (August 2021)
Boundaries for Anxious Attachers with Rikki Cloos (June 2021)
What It Means to Have a Broken Picker with Adele Currin (June 2021)
Some of My Instagram Faves:
Quizzes:
The Original Fix Your Picker Relationship Quiz. Detects patterns of anxious and avoidant attachment. Results come in a seven-day email sequence that describes the likely ramifications of your relational behavior – and what you can do about it!
The Experiences in Close Relationships Quiz. A more granular look at your attachment style. Results come as a data point on an x-y plane of Avoidance vs. Anxiety measured from 1 to 5. However, there is danger in wrongly considering yourself securely attached using this quiz. Avoid this pitfall by taking a peek at this illustration.
The Love Language Quiz. People give and receive love in different ways. If you and your partner speak different love languages, you might wanna figure that out.
The Adverse Childhood Experiences Quiz. Very simple yet powerful quiz to identify the ten most prevalent forms of childhood abuse, neglect, and household dysfunction. Your ACE score has a direct correlation to damn near every negative outcome in life (addiction, depression, disease, injury, incarceration, unemployment, rape, alcoholism, obesity, suicide, etc.). In other words, it’s good to know your ACE score.
The Childhood Emotional Neglect Questionnaire. Many people think their childhood was “fine” because they weren’t beat and their physical needs were met. But emotional neglect isn’t memorable like something bad that happened – it’s unmemorable like something that didn’t happen. Yet, it’s effects can be just as crippling as any other type of developmental trauma. Worth looking into – especially if you don’t think you need to.
Tools / Charts / Helpful Resources:
30 Red Flags – excerpt from Psychopath Free by Jackson McKenzie
Definitions of Cognitive Distortions – excerpt from Feeling Good by David Burns
Intentions for Recovery | The Human Bill of Rights | Inner Critic Attacks | Resolving Conflict | Emotional Flashbacks – excerpts from Complex PTSD by Pete Walker
The Work – Byron Katie’s framework for questioning your beliefs
25 Questions – Adult Children of Alcoholics & Dysfunctional Families
Patterns and Characteristics of Codependency – Codependents Anonymous
The Feelings Wheel – visual aid for identifying your feelings
87 Human Emotions & Experiences – from Brené Brown’s Atlas of the Heart
Feelings & Needs Inventory – The Center for Nonviolent Communication
Polyvagal Chart – physiology of nervous system activation
Urgent vs. Important – Adam Murauskas
RAIN: A Practice of Radical Compassion – Tara Brach
Relationship Attachment Model – John Van Epp
Model of Developmental Immaturity – Pia Mellody
The Weekly Check-In Prompt – The Gottman Institute
Quick Reads:
Ghosts – excerpt from Untamed by Glennon Doyle
Physiology of the Brain and Stress – energyconnectiontherapies.com
Adverse Childhood Experiences and Adult Health – Vincent J Felitti, MD
The Verdict Is In: The case for attachment theory – Alan Sroufe and Daniel Siegel
Apps:
I am – positive affirmations
Insight Timer – meditation, yoga, courses, music, mood tracker, etc.
Othership – guided breathwork
Libby and Hoopla – free audiobooks and e-books when linked to your library card
Videos:
The Power of Vulnerability | Brené Brown
The Secret to Desire in a Long-Term Relationship | Esther Perel
You Can Heal Intergenerational Trauma | Thema Bryant
Trauma, Healing, and The Brain | Gabor Maté
6 Ways to Heal Trauma Without Medication | Bessel van der Kolk
Adult Children Of Emotionally Immature Parents | Lindsay Gibson
How to Reparent Yourself | Nicole LePera
Podcasts:
Jewel on The Ed Mylett Show
James Clear on Ten Percent Happier
Pia Mellody on Conversation with Alanis Morissette
Trauma Journaling Protocol on Huberman Lab
Healing from Addiction on Commune
Movies / Shows:
The Wisdom of Trauma – Movie featuring Gabor Maté
The Call to Courage – Brené Brown’s Netflix special
Atlas of the Heart – Brené Brown’s HBO series
Stutz – Jonah Hill’s Netflix documentary about his psychiatrist Phil Stutz
Meditation:
Loving and Listening to Yourself | Sarah Blondin
The Cave – Trauma Healing Poetry | Sez Kristiansen
Remembering Your Worth | Linda Youssouf
I Am Everything | Beautiful Chorus
Moola Mantra Blessings | Prashanti Paz
Handpan Meditation | Malte Marten
F*ck That Meditation | Jason Headley
Some of My Favorite Articles:
The Inherent Pitfalls of Dating
Waiting for Someone to Give You Something They Don’t Have
How To Know If Someone Can Change
The 4 Pillars of Healing and Growth
Do You Even Know What Your Needs Are?
The Importance of Community on the Healing Journey
Stop Calling Your Trauma Response “Me”
The Most Diabolical Thing About Self-Abandonment
Is Your Whole Relationship a Trauma Response?
How Toxic Shame Sabotages Your Relationships and What to Do About It
Songs That Make Me Feel Things:
Thankyou Very Much | Leah Song of Rising Appalachia
Convenience Stores | The Information Man | Buddy Wakefield
Laughing With | Samson | Regina Spektor
Back to Where I Was | Eric Hutchinson
Paradise | Eyedea & Abilities
The Last to Say | Yesterday | Atmosphere
Rain Water | Brother Ali
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