Author Archives: Adam

I’m not smart enough or pretty enough. I don’t have enough time and energy. Not enough money. I have bad luck. I’m just not good at that. I’ve already invested in this other thing. I’m too young, too old, too tall, too short — I’m definitely too something. Making excuses is by far the number-one preferred strategyContinue reading “Wonderful Benefits of Making Excuses”

Most people don’t remember being born. After nine months of literally being an extension of another person, self-awareness really isn’t necessary. Our obliviousness is kind of adorable as we flail about and involuntarily shit on ourselves while other people clean up the mess. Suckers. It’s a pretty sweet deal if you think about it. AndContinue reading “The Journey of Self-Awareness”

Falling in love is fantastic. Excitement, connection, validation, euphoric rapture — the feeling of becoming infinitely more than you once were — literally and figuratively seeing your reflection in the eyes of another. The whole experience is transcendental, expanding beyond your limited self to create a new reality in which a whole other person can fit inside your heart.Continue reading “Losing Yourself In Relationships”

Going to Las Vegas with a duffle bag full of cash is exciting. Doing 200 mph on a Kawasaki Ninja without a helmet  is  definitely exciting. Having sex in a Burger King bathroom? No doubt. Smoking meth, strong-arm robbery, and arson are relatively exciting pastimes as well. However, none of these activities are particularly advisableContinue reading “Toxic Relationships Are Exciting!”

Love is the riddle of the ages. The unsolved mystery. A paradox as old as time. It must be given away in order to keep it. Love is the triumphant answer to it’s own burning question. It’s at once unmistakable and untraceable. An indisputable fact with zero evidence. Love is the beginning and the end,Continue reading “Love Is”

I’ve always been a hard worker. Whether that came from a place of love and service or a place of shame and unworthiness, I’m not exactly sure. But I put in work like a country mule as far back as I can remember. At eight years old I was diagnosed with diabetes and self-care literallyContinue reading “Shame, Hard Work, and Healing”

Do you know someone whose longest and most intimate relationship is with their pet? I’ve met quite a few of these people and wanted to write a piece about this phenomenon but have been terrified to offend a global community of animal-lovers and decimate my readership. But I can’t put this off any longer. Someone hasContinue reading “Nobody Loves Me Like My Dog”

In order to be healthy, I had to heal. Simple as that. I don’t know if there is anyone alive who made it out of childhood unscathed. There is no shortage of abuse, neglect and adversity. Even those provided everything they ever wanted as kids grow up with issues. They might have to heal fromContinue reading “Healthy Starts With “Heal””

Vulnerability is being exposed to the possibility of physical or emotional harm. It’s gambling with the tenderest parts of yourself. Vulnerability is a courageous act of allowing your whole self to be fully seen and heard. Being vulnerable tells others you value them so much that you’re willing to walk through your fears and insecuritiesContinue reading “Vulnerability Is The Price Of Admission”

Many people love being perfectionists. They brag about it. Wear it like a badge of honor. Sometimes they admit it in a self-deprecating way, however accompanied by “that’s why I’m so awesome” undertones. It’s a compulsive addiction that most people 1) have no desire to give up, 2) cannot see the harmful effects of, 3)Continue reading “Why Perfectionism Ruins Relationships”