Vulnerability is being exposed to the possibility of physical or emotional harm. It’s gambling with the tenderest parts of yourself. Vulnerability is a courageous act of allowing your whole self to be fully seen and heard. Being vulnerable tells others you value them so much that you’re willing to walk through your fears and insecuritiesContinue reading “Vulnerability Is The Price Of Admission”
Author Archives: Adam
Why Perfectionism Ruins Relationships
Many people love being perfectionists. They brag about it. Wear it like a badge of honor. Sometimes they admit it in a self-deprecating way, however accompanied by “that’s why I’m so awesome” undertones. It’s a compulsive addiction that most people 1) have no desire to give up, 2) cannot see the harmful effects of, 3)Continue reading “Why Perfectionism Ruins Relationships”
You Don’t Find Love, You Create Love
Anyone out there searching for love? Looking for your soul mate? Maybe you thought you found “the one,” but you were mistaken. Perhaps this has happened more than once. Are you looking for a needle in a haystack? Well, I’ve got some good news for you. There is no needle! That’s right – love isn’tContinue reading “You Don’t Find Love, You Create Love”
Falling in Love with Falling in Love
Falling in love is one of the most exhilarating experiences that life has to offer. It’s downright wonderful, no doubt. But what happens when we fall in love with falling in love? What happens when our favorite part of the relationship is the first couple months? Well, under those circumstances we can fall in love with anyContinue reading “Falling in Love with Falling in Love”
You Don’t Deserve Better
When their best friend is dating a loser, people often say that he/she “deserves better.” Parents frequently say this about their children. It’s something we tend to say about those we love. People repeatedly say to themselves: “I don’t deserve this shit! I deserve better!” No. No you don’t. And neither does anyone else (althoughContinue reading “You Don’t Deserve Better”
10 Tips for Healthy Dating
“I used to go on a date, have sex, then be like, ‘Ok, now I’m in a relationship.’ It was insane! That was the whole extent of my relationship skills.” I paid a therapist $170 per 50 minutes to (among other things) teach me what dating was. A quick google search would’ve turned up theContinue reading “10 Tips for Healthy Dating”
Why People Aim Low
Have you ever asked yourself, “Why does she only date ex-convicts and scumbags?” Or, “Why does he keep dating drug addicts and harlots?” To be honest, there is a whole host of possible reasons why people aim low (beyond the scope of any blog post ever written). However, it generally comes down to fear, judgmentContinue reading “Why People Aim Low”
Why People Stay Stuck
Have you ever wondered why people stay stuck? Stuck in their problems, patterns and habits, stuck in their jobs and relationships, stuck in their heads, their negative self-talk, stuck in the past, stuck in their story. Sure seems like being stuck is a terrible experience. Yet, why do so many people do it? Well, IContinue reading “Why People Stay Stuck”
Fear of Commitment
Do you know a couple who has been together for a long time but still aren’t married? Maybe you know somebody who’s longest relationship ever was three months. How about “friends with benefits?” Have you ever been on a first date and heard “I’m not looking for anything serious right now, but…”? It’s possible thatContinue reading “Fear of Commitment”