Physicists have long since proven that light exhibits properties of both waves and particles. But not necessarily like a wavy river of particles. Literally, one ass photon (particle of light) propagates in a wavelike fashion. I know… doesn’t make any damn sense. Is it a wave or a particle? The simple answer is yes. AsContinue reading “Relationships and Quantum Physics”
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Relationships In Recovery
Romantic relationships within the context of recovery from substance or process addictions is a hot topic. This may include codependency, sex addiction, eating disorders, self-harm, alcoholism, or any number of things. Whether you, your partner, or both are committed to some program of recovery (or apparently uncommitted), there is much to say on the matter.Continue reading “Relationships In Recovery”
Your Three Options in Every Relationship
When this story publishes, my wife and I will be cozied up in an island bungalow off the Caribbean coast of Panama. She’s really good at planning travel, vacations, events, and pretty much anything. My skill set is more in line with absolutely winging shit and figuring it out as we go, haha. It’s likeContinue reading “Your Three Options in Every Relationship”
Waiting for Someone to Give You Something They Don’t Have
Cheryl Strayed once wrote, “So long as you stay in a relationship that isn’t meeting your needs, you’re in a relationship that isn’t meeting your needs.” Not exactly rocket science, but it’ll knock your ass in the dirt if you’re not paying attention. And that’s just it. A certain level of ignorance, delusion, dissociation, orContinue reading “Waiting for Someone to Give You Something They Don’t Have”
Unhealthy Relationships Are a Symptom
No one wants to be in a relationship where being yourself and speaking your truth doesn’t feel safe. Sometimes authenticity and vulnerability don’t feel safe because our partners are judgmental, shaming, controlling, or abusive. Other times, authenticity doesn’t feel safe because our parents were that way when we were children. And in many cases, unsurprisingly,Continue reading “Unhealthy Relationships Are a Symptom”
The Tragic Dilemma of Anxious Attachers
Anxious attachment is a pattern of human relating rooted in childhood abandonment. This abandonment — whether physical or emotional and no matter how subtle — interferes with the maturation process, causes numerous unhealthy dependencies, and invariably leads to self-abandonment. Today, I’d like to point out an often overlooked but particularly insidious relational dynamic common to anxious attachers. But first,Continue reading “The Tragic Dilemma of Anxious Attachers”
Fear of Being Seen
Children who were frequently teased, judged, criticized, micromanaged, mistreated, compared, guilted, shamed, bullied, or abused often grow into adults who are terrified of being seen by others. Understandably so. But this translates into a fear of vulnerability, intimacy, and authenticity. A fear of self-expression and even of self-examination. The sense of self atrophies for thoseContinue reading “Fear of Being Seen”